Separation & Divorce Coach
for Women
Practical, private support for the decisions, conversations and realities of separation and divorce.
BEFORE, DURING OR AFTER SEPARATION
You don’t need to be separated to work with a divorce coach
In fact, some of the most valuable work I do happens before a separation has taken place.
You might know your relationship is no longer working but have no idea what separation would actually look like. You might be quietly considering your options. Or perhaps the decision has already been made, by you or your partner, and suddenly there are decisions to make about children, money, living arrangements, communication and what happens next.
This is where having the right support before and during separation can make a real difference.
Instead of approaching each issue in isolation, we look at the bigger picture: your circumstances, your priorities, your family, your finances, your concerns, your professional support and the practical decisions in front of you.
Less Stress. Less Cost. Less Conflict.
My role is to help you see the whole picture.
As a Separation Strategist™, I help you work out what needs your attention, what doesn't, what questions need answering and which professionals you may need around you. We look ahead wherever possible, so you can prepare rather than react to whatever happens next.
A big part of that is helping you navigate separation with as little stress, cost and conflict as possible. That can mean preparing properly before obtaining professional advice, thinking strategically about difficult conversations, managing communication, choosing which issues genuinely need attention, preparing for mediation or legal appointments, and avoiding unnecessary escalation.
A lawyer advises you about the law. A financial adviser or accountant provides specialist financial advice. A psychologist or counsellor provides therapeutic support. My role sits alongside those professionals, helping you look across the practical realities of your separation, use your professional team effectively and make considered decisions about what happens next.
I am legally trained and was admitted as a solicitor in NSW and England & Wales, but I no longer practise law and do not provide legal advice.
You might be looking for a separation or divorce coach because…
You're seriously considering separation and want to understand what you should think about before making any major decisions.
Perhaps the decision has already been made, by you or your partner, and you're worried about your children, your finances, your home and what happens next.
You may already have a family lawyer, but want someone in your corner helping you think through the practical decisions, difficult conversations and day-to-day realities outside your legal appointments.
Or perhaps one of your biggest concerns is how quickly separation can become stressful, expensive and high conflict, and you want to prepare well and avoid unnecessary escalation wherever possible.
Practical experience. Professional understanding. Compassionate support.
I'm Kate Boyden, Separation Strategist™ and Divorce Coach for Women.
I've been working with women navigating relationship breakdown, separation and divorce for more than a decade, and have personally supported over 700 women during that time.
Before this work, I was a lawyer, admitted in both Australia and England and Wales. I no longer practise law in either jurisdiction or provide legal advice.
My work today draws on years of further training and experience across coaching, relationships, domestic and family violence, trauma-informed practice, and various holistic health and wellbeing modalities, as well as my own lived experience of separation, divorce, and solo parenting.
All of that informs how I work, but at its heart, this is very personal work.
Every woman, relationship and family is different. I take the time to understand what's happening in yours, and what you need from me.
Ways I can support you
START HERE
You might be trying to decide whether to stay or leave, quietly preparing for the possibility of separation, or already dealing with the reality of one.
My resources and private support are designed for different points along that path, so you can choose what best fits where you are now.
Crossroads Compass™
For women who can’t decide whether to stay or leave their relationship. Crossroads Compass™ is a private, self-paced workbook and guided online program designed to help you look honestly at your relationship, what has brought you to this point and what matters to you before making a decision that could change your life.
There’s no pressure towards staying or leaving. It gives you a structured place to work through something that can otherwise go around and around in your head.
SELF-PACED HANDBOOK AND ONLINE PROGRAM
The Essential Pre-Separation Handbook
A comprehensive 149-page practical guide and guided online program for women contemplating or preparing for separation. It helps you understand and prepare for the real-world decisions ahead, including your finances, children, living arrangements, important documents, professional advice, communication, wellbeing and what may need to happen before and after separation.
With practical worksheets and checklists throughout, it’s designed to help you prepare thoroughly, ask better questions, use professional advice more effectively and avoid costly or unnecessary mistakes.
PRIVATE 1:1 SUPPORT
Separation Sanity™
Separation Sanity™ is my 12-week private coaching program for women who want ongoing, highly personalised support as they contemplate, prepare for or navigate separation.
We work together across whatever is happening in your particular situation, from difficult decisions and conversations to children, communication, finances, professional support and the unexpected issues that can arise along the way.
You’ll have weekly private coaching sessions with me, together with support between sessions, so I can provide continuity, perspective and practical guidance as things unfold.
Because of the level of personal support involved, I only work with a limited number of Separation Sanity™ clients at any one time. Places are offered by application or personal invitation.
SELF-PACED WORKBOOK AND ONLINE PROGRAM
PERSONALISED GUIDANCE + SUPPORT
Private Strategy Session
A focused 60-minute private session with me when you need experienced eyes on your particular situation.
We’ll look at what’s happening, identify what genuinely needs your attention, talk through your concerns and priorities, and work out practical next steps. It’s a chance to step out of the detail for an hour, look at the bigger picture and work through what matters most in your particular situation.
Sessions are always held by phone, so there’s no camera and no need to prepare or present yourself in any particular way. You can talk to me privately from wherever feels comfortable.
Frequently asked questions
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You don’t need to wait until you’ve separated. In fact, there can be enormous value in getting support before major decisions, conversations or changes take place.
I work with women who are questioning their relationship, contemplating separation, preparing privately, or already navigating one.
The earlier we work together, the more opportunity there can be to think ahead, understand what may need attention, prepare for different possibilities and avoid making important decisions in the middle of an already stressful situation.
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No. I won’t make that decision for you or push you towards staying or leaving.
What I can do is give you a private, non-judgemental space to look honestly at what’s happening, explore your concerns and the realities of the different paths available to you, and help you separate what you know from what you fear, assume or still need to find out.
The aim isn’t for me to decide what’s right for you. It’s to help you reach your own decision from a more informed and considered place.
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Absolutely. My work is very different from your lawyer’s, and the two can work extremely well alongside each other.
Your lawyer advises you about your legal position. I support you with the much broader reality of navigating separation: the decisions, preparation, children, finances, communication, difficult conversations, professional support, wellbeing and day-to-day issues that don’t begin and end with a legal appointment.
I can also help you prepare for meetings, work out the questions you need answered and make better use of the time you’re paying your professionals for.
Between appointments, we can think through what’s happening, what actually needs your attention and what may not be worth escalating.
For many women, having that broader support means less overwhelm, fewer reactive decisions and a more considered use of their time, energy and professional costs.
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Separation can quickly become a collection of problems that all feel urgent at once. My role is to help you see the bigger picture and work out what actually needs your attention.
Depending on your circumstances, that might mean preparing before separation, thinking through children or living arrangements, getting organised financially, planning difficult conversations, managing communication, preparing for mediation or professional appointments, building the right support team, or working through an unexpected development as it happens.
You have someone who understands the broader separation landscape in your corner, helping you think ahead, identify potential problems earlier and make considered decisions rather than dealing with everything reactively.
Ultimately, my aim is to help you navigate separation with as little stress, fear, cost and conflict as possible.
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I work with women across Australia and internationally, so where you live doesn’t matter.
My private sessions are held by phone, which many of my clients actually prefer. There’s no travel, no video calls and no need to worry about how you look or how tidy your house is in the background. None of that is important here.
I know you probably have a lot on your plate already. I want our conversations to feel as private, calm and comfortable as possible, wherever you happen to be when we speak.My online programs and resources can also be accessed from anywhere and worked through privately, in your own time.
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